I feel bad...

[Soria]

I just found my father needs minor heart surgery... Not just that but there is a chance a tiny, minor chance, that he could die during this surgery....

My first recation? " Dad should write a will up before he goes for this."


I feel horrible...

[Dilorenzo]

Dont, Soria.

Bad as it may be, in a lot of instances where something bad may happen to one we love, sometimes our first instinct is about ourselves rather than them.

It sucks, but you're not the only one it happens to.

[Korkskrew]

She's right though. It's always a good idea to have a will so everyone is taken care of once you're gone. I wouldn't worry about it hun, at least you like your dad enough to care what happens to him. (Resisting urge to go off on a tangent at the moment...)

[Soria]

It just sunk in a moment ago I might lose me daddy... Thank the small gods I keep a box a of tissues nearby the computer... Thanks guys. I appericate it. I'm going to try to talk to me dad about a will.. ( He doesn't like talking about... His dad died of a heart attack when he was 12.. so I can imagine he's fairly upset.)


( PS> Kork, if you need to rant, feel free to PM me doing so. I'm good at listening to rants.)

[Xabanakfanatik]

Just remember, with ANY sort of any kind of surgery, there is a minor chance the parient can die. Given, it is heart surgery, there may be a slightly higher chance, but mostly they let you know that so IF it does happen, which is extremely unlikely, you won't be completely suprised.

I would bet your dad will make it through fine, and it will be good. But, it could happen, and if it does, life moves on, and you'll be fine.

[Daiv]

Doctors always have to prepare you for the worse thing that can happen.

When I was seriously Ill, my parents had the misfortune of informing my friends and my school that they may never see me again. Because they were braced for the worse thing.

The exact same thing happened when somone I really cared for became ill (same illness, yargh) after I made a full recovery. She didn't make a full recovery, but is alive and coping very well.

Technology and medical proffesions are becoming very advanced now.
At least they can do something to help.

Best of luck to you both. :)

[Nymph]

* Gives Soria A BIG hug *

It'll be okies babe :D

[Naila]

Part of being an adult is making sure everything is covered. This includes making out a will, especially in cases where, even if it's the tiniest of chances, something could happen.

My dad didn't have a will when he died. and it caused nothing but problems in my family.

my stance is...if you have kids and/or going to be having some procedure where's there's any chance you could die, you need to write up a will. NEED to.

[Evil_Gondi]

I wrote my will as soon as I learned of death.

Wasn't much to it, as the only prized possession I had were legos, but I felt it necessary to know what will happen to my stuff.

Now, I have my funeral detailed, as well as what to do should I go comatose. All my assets are to be sold if I am still single and the money would first go to any child I might have had but never saw, then parents, then rest of family, then friends. Should I be married, my assets would go to my wife/husband.

It is important to take care of things ahead of time, and more so if your time has the chance of ending.

[Wolf]

I wouldn't feel bad, thats really something to think about. My Grandma died of cancer recently and she left no will, even though she had cancer for awhile, then survived it, lived fine a few years, then got it again and finally died. I almost find it dumb that she didn't make a will.

[Gavin Darkhart]

The mind tends to hide from strong emotions in the practical or mundane. You simply hid from the fear of possibly losing your father by skipping to the mundane aspects of death and dieing, in this case, his will.

You weren't thinking of yourself or being selfish, you were simply being human. so, don't feel bad it's perfectly normal.

[MIKECLAN]

Nope, don't feel bad at all. Any Surgury, even stupid LITTLE stuff that people get every Day, has risks.

But EVERYONE who has any kind o f "estate" should have a will. I'm 36, I've had one for 10 years. And I go back and update it every few years so its current to my situation.

If there's a will, It at least gives the family a guideline to go by if things go bad. He does NOT want the State to be the one to decide who gets what.