I need help.

[Soria]

I've been denining it for awhile now, but I have anger mangement issues. The thing is I only blow up at one person ( Normally) and that is my sister. I'll try not to do it... but she does these things that make me so mad. Such as ( not proporsely mind you) reminding me how much of human being she is then me, he little favours without so much as a thank you, even though I know the thank you is understood, her assuming I'm not doing anything because I'm somewhat anti-social.

( Sorry, I just needed to list them to get them out of my head.)


It's not her fault I get mad, I just do, and she's the most available target, which is wrong.


I was hoping you folks could offer some advice on how to help ease my anger. Particularly when I can't go meditate and stuff, for when we're out and counting to ten backwards doesn't work. Any help with making me a less angry person anytime would be helpful, so long as it's free.

[Korkskrew]

First of all, you really don't strike me as the type to get angry, but I guess we all have our bouts of anger every now and again.
Whenever I get frustrated I just punch my wall. Make sure it's drywall and you don't hit the stud, otherwise it'll hurt like a biatch. Wailing away on your wall is a great stress reliever though, if your parents/roommates/etc don't mind.

[Da_Dude]

Hitting stuff is good although I'd recommened a punchingbag....walls have a tendency to get holes....

[Dilorenzo]

Aye, punchbags are a godsend. You can pound away on em, not hurt anyone- or youself- and walk away feeling at least a little better.
And once you feel a little better, it's easier to get over things.

[Ciarin]

You should see a counselor.

[Daiv]

Aye, punchbags are a godsend. You can pound away on em, not hurt anyone- or youself- and walk away feeling at least a little better.
And once you feel a little better, it's easier to get over things.

Punch bags are no good.
You'll only learn to associate anger with violence, and when there is no punch bag avaliable, and you're in a public environment, what do you do when you *REALLY* need to hit something?
Also, if you strike the punchbag at the incorrect angle, you can damage the small joints in your wrists.

Personaly, martial arts training has helped my aggressive tendancies. The discipline, the endurance, the respect it commands.
Doing activities that lower blood pressure can help you control a temper.

Having a squishy keyring, or a keyring that clicks can help too. All it does is helps divert some of your aggression onto something else, instead of somone else. It justs keeps your subconcious happy.

Or if you're like me at work and you're Really annoyed/stressed. Have a nice soothing cup of Tea!